Following the recent happenings both on the virtual space and in reality, where many victims are trying so hard to share their stories of rape and sexual abuse, just so they can get their freedom from the monster of silence that eats deep into them, it’s been discovered that the society would rather shut them up than hear them out. Continue reading “The Society Isn’t Helping…”
There are reasons why male rape cases are under reported or most times treated with levity, one is because we are the first to make light of it when cases like this come up.
There is this popular joke about how a man who was raped in a street cried out and how the next day, a thousand and one men crowded the street, praying for an opportunity to be raped too.
Now you know what breaks my heart the most? This joke is being told by men and fellow men laugh at it.
Do you even know what this means? It means that men see rape as opportunity sex. Men pray to be raped.
Last week, I happened upon a thread here on facebook where a boy was telling his rape story. An imbecile came there to vomit cow dung; “Oboy allow us here word joor.. You don dey talk now as if you no enjoy am.” Just imagine!
I watched one of the most despicable comedy clip(which wasn’t funny anyway) ever on facebook;
A signpost was made saying that all male criminals are to be raped as punishment for their crimes.
A male thief was caught and raped and before he could walk out of the building, about 10 other men were there with their guns, ready to surrender and be raped.
And people were laughing and sharing this video. Damn! MEN acted this horror clip.
Now tell me, how do you expect the male rape victim to speak up after these things, knowing he would be a subject of ridicule in the eye of the public? Or that his case would just be taken as another joke with fellow men asking for the address where he was raped so that they too could go and get a share of the blessing?
I hope you know that when you say cases of male rape is ‘minimal’ and as such shouldn’t be campaigned against as much as that of female rape, you are being inhumane?
Written by : VirginBoi Boyant
In Nigeria, women are raped for various reasons…
1. To “teach them a lesson”
2. For rejecting a guy’s sexual advances
3. For rejecting a guy’s advances and still “making guy” like the case of a guy called Emmanuel who said his friends “taught a girl a lesson” after refusing to date the boy yet she still dresses sexy
4. For wearing short/fitted dresses
5. For wearing long/loose dresses
6. By assailants sent by Mrs. Wife teach Ms. side chic a lesson
7. By their husbands and boyfriends who believe sex is their inalienable right and take-it-by-force they must
8. Randy school boys who want to show their “manliness”
9. To humiliate and publicly stigmatize them
10. To get at rival
11. For refusing a man’s gifts
12. To “humble” her
13. By Mr Randy husband to wife’s sister
14. Mr Randy husband or son to maid
15. By Mr Useless step-father to wife’s daughter (and many times, his own daughter)
In most of all these cases, these rapists are rarely blamed as much as the victim is.
In almost all cases, the rapist is shielded more than the victim is.
This girl 👇👇 is one of such unfortunate victims.
Then there’s the 11 year old at Balyesa.
Read about another 14 year old today who was brutally raped to death. READ FULL ARTICLE HERE
Another one’s cousin raped his wife to a stupor. According to him he knew his cousin had an insatiable sexual appetite but he never thought he would do it to him. However I’m very sure that wasn’t the first woman his cousin was raping and the man knows about it. Sad.
We are raising animals and we are calling them our sons and brothers.
We are raising men who get offended and vindictive when a woman tells them “No”. The lyrics of our useless songs are not helping matters.
We are raising and enabling mad people to live amongst us by making excuses and covering up for their wickedness.
Rape is internal murder; a lovely young lady buzzed me inbox and shared how 17 years later she’s still haunted by her experience of being gang raped by 5 men.
I hate the powerlessness that comes comes with being a victim of sexual abuse, worse still I detest the powerlessness one feels against such injustice in a society like ours.
What can be done to curb the spate of rape in this Country? I’m thinking of organising free self defence classes in every state for women.
If you can gather women together at a venue in your area, please let me know. Eyi Astia Asseh is willing to help train ladies to defend themselves against attackers. Let’s start from there.
What else can be done? Don’t think anyone is completely cocooned from this menace, most of you are dating or are married to victims, have daughters who have fallen victims, have sons/brothers who are/have been rapists…..
In fact I’m tired.
Written by: Natalie Ewaen U
Obiamaka Ngozichukwu Orakwe was a 14 year old secondary school student who was raped to death by miscreants in her neighbourhood who broke into their house at Abule-Ado, Lagos State and perpetuated their dastardly act. Continue reading “She was 14, now she is dead”
I received both a call and an inbox message telling me of the rape of a thirteen year old girl, by two men and yet again, my heart broke.
I couldn’t fathom how a full grown person would choose to have sexual knowledge of a minor.
We really need to be and about with matters relating to rape in our society.
We all need to be careful, but how careful can we be, when many of the cases that are reported has uncles, aunts, fathers, brothers and sisters involved as the abusers, rapists and offenders.
How careful can we be when we send our children to school, just for them to be abused and raped in their schools/
How careful can we be when we send our teenage children to the market and along the way they get abused and raped?
How careful can we be when in our own houses, they break in and end up including us in the statistic of rape victims?
Really, how careful can we be?
I believe that the offenders, abusers, rapists and those who make light of attempts are the ones who we should direct our attention to, and this as scary as it sounds includes almost everyone who is a living human on earth right now.
What hope do we have of a society void of rape and other sexual related offences?
It is possible if and when we take the battle personal as a national crisis.
A state of emergency should be declared and necessary steps be taken. It is not just about having laws in the books, we should also ensure execution of the laws are STRICTLY adhered to.
She woke up on a beautiful day and as usual, she decided to go for an early morning jog, so she got dressed and hit the road. Continue reading “Yet, another rape victim”
I lack words to express my gratitude and excitement at the just concluded demystify abuse campaign outing in Abuja.
We wouldn’t have been able to record such an success if it wasn’t for all the persons who showed us maximum support and for other foundations who rallied round to ensure a beautiful and fulfilling day at Internally Displaced Camp (IDP), new Kuchingoro, Abuja, Nigeria. Continue reading “DAC visits IDP camp in Abuja”
It’s been two hundred and twenty-nine (229) days since you and your clique broke into my house and acted based upon your juvenile stupidity, naivety, confusion and immaturity, and wow, it has been a journey. Continue reading “Letter To My Rapist And His Kinds”
While reading through the nation newspaper for June 22nd and on page 6, a woman, Blessing Joshua allegedly caught her lover Oku Ekanem who is 50 years old raping her 15 year old daughter. Continue reading “A 50 year old man allegedly rapes a 15 year old girl”