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Much Ado About Male Rape

Dear men,
There are reasons why male rape cases are under reported or most times treated with levity, one is because we are the first to make light of it when cases like this come up.
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There is this popular joke about how a man who was raped in a street cried out and how the next day, a thousand and one men crowded the street, praying for an opportunity to be raped too.

Now you know what breaks my heart the most? This joke is being told by men and fellow men laugh at it.
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Do you even know what this means? It means that men see rape as opportunity sex. Men pray to be raped.

Last week, I happened upon a thread here on facebook where a boy was telling his rape story. An imbecile came there to vomit cow dung; “Oboy allow us here word joor.. You don dey talk now as if you no enjoy am.” Just imagine!
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I watched one of the most despicable comedy clip(which wasn’t funny anyway) ever on facebook;
A signpost was made saying that all male criminals are to be raped as punishment for their crimes.

A male thief was caught and raped and before he could walk out of the building, about 10 other men were there with their guns, ready to surrender and be raped.

And people were laughing and sharing this video. Damn! MEN acted this horror clip.
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Now tell me, how do you expect the male rape victim to speak up after these things, knowing he would be a subject of ridicule in the eye of the public? Or that his case would just be taken as another joke with fellow men asking for the address where he was raped so that they too could go and get a share of the blessing?
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Dear women
I hope you know that when you say cases of male rape is ‘minimal’ and as such shouldn’t be campaigned against as much as that of female rape, you are being inhumane?
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Written by : VirginBoi Boyant

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In Nigeria, women are raped for various reasons…

1. To “teach them a lesson”

2. For rejecting a guy’s sexual advances

3. For rejecting a guy’s advances and still “making guy” like the case of a guy called Emmanuel who said his friends “taught a girl a lesson” after refusing to date the boy yet she still dresses sexy

4. For wearing short/fitted dresses

5. For wearing long/loose dresses

6. By assailants sent by Mrs. Wife teach Ms. side chic a lesson

7. By their husbands and boyfriends who believe sex is their inalienable right and take-it-by-force they must

8. Randy school boys who want to show their “manliness”

9. To humiliate and publicly stigmatize them

10. To get at rival

11. For refusing a man’s gifts

12. To “humble” her

13. By Mr Randy husband to wife’s sister

14. Mr Randy husband or son to maid

15. By Mr Useless step-father to wife’s daughter (and many times, his own daughter)

In most of all these cases, these rapists are rarely blamed as much as the victim is.

In almost all cases, the rapist is shielded more than the victim is.

This girl 👇👇 is one of such unfortunate victims.

Then there’s the 11 year old at Balyesa.

Read about another 14 year old today who was brutally raped to death.  READ FULL ARTICLE HERE

Another one’s cousin raped his wife to a stupor. According to him he knew his cousin had an insatiable sexual appetite but he never thought he would do it to him. However I’m very sure that wasn’t the first woman his cousin was raping and the man knows about it. Sad.

We are raising animals and we are calling them our sons and brothers.

We are raising men who get offended and vindictive when a woman tells them “No”. The lyrics of our useless songs are not helping matters.

We are raising and enabling mad people to live amongst us by making excuses and covering up for their wickedness.

Rape is internal murder; a lovely young lady buzzed me inbox and shared how 17 years later she’s still haunted by her experience of being gang raped by 5 men.

Sighs.

I hate the powerlessness that comes comes with being a victim of sexual abuse, worse still I detest the powerlessness one feels against such injustice in a society like ours.

What can be done to curb the spate of rape in this Country? I’m thinking of organising free self defence classes in every state for women.

If you can gather women together at a venue in your area, please let me know. Eyi Astia Asseh is willing to help train ladies to defend themselves against attackers. Let’s start from there.

What else can be done? Don’t think anyone is completely cocooned from this menace, most of you are dating or are married to victims, have daughters who have fallen victims, have sons/brothers who are/have been rapists…..

In fact I’m tired.

Written by: Natalie Ewaen U

Another Rape Story

She is just 13

I received both a call and an inbox message telling me of the rape of a thirteen year old girl, by two men and yet again, my heart broke.

I couldn’t fathom how a full grown person would choose to have sexual knowledge of a minor.

We really need to be and about with matters relating to rape in our society.

We all need to be careful, but how careful can we be, when many of the cases that are reported has uncles, aunts, fathers, brothers and sisters involved as the abusers, rapists and offenders.

How careful can we be when we send our children to school, just for them to be abused and raped in their schools/

How careful can we be when we send our teenage children to the market and along the way they get abused and raped?

How careful can we be when in our own houses, they break in and end up including us in the statistic of rape victims?

Really, how careful can we be?

I believe that the offenders, abusers, rapists and those who make light of attempts are the ones who we should direct our attention to, and this as scary as it sounds includes almost everyone who is a living human on earth right now.

What hope do we have of a society void of rape and other sexual related offences?

It is possible if and when we take the battle personal as a national crisis.

A state of emergency should be declared and necessary steps be taken. It is not just about having laws in the books, we should also ensure execution of the laws are STRICTLY adhered to.

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Demystify Abuse Campaign Goes To Abuja

Displaced-PersonsThe need to go to IDP camps with #DemystifyAbuse campaign arose when I kept hearing of the constant rape and sexual abuse faced by most Nigerians who found themselves at these camps.
I may not have all the money in the world, but I live comfortably in a house that has a roof, I wear clothes that fit me perfectly and I get to eat food WHENEVER I am hungry,.
Most importantly I HAVE HOPE – hope for what tomorrow. and for a better life.

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A Pastor Arrested for running a baby factory and allegedly raping girls

A pastor of a Pentecostal church Christopher Tochukwu was arrested by the police force in Aba for allegedly raping girls and for allegedly operating a baby factory in no 252 Faulks road, Aba, Abia State.

A young lady who escaped being raped went ahead to tip the police of all that goes on in the said address.

Being a one time rape victim, I know the pain and trauma that comes with being a victim. Each time I read or hear stories as this, I am broken beyond words. I still pray and hope that one day rape and its siblings will become a thing of the past.
I am also of the opinion that rape offenders should always be brought to face justice.

And more awareness should be made as it regards rape and sexual abuse/molestation as it is ravaging our nation, day by day.

Get more of the news on Daily Post

 

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I heard Demeaning Voices

I heard demeaning voicesThere are limiting voices that come at us from left, right and center, these voices are often demeaning and annoying.

These voices are known for making us look inferior, damaged or incomplete to our own selves.

These voice would give you a million and one reasons why you cannot.

Below is a comment I made on his post and I hope it helps you go achieve all you plan, dream, hope to achieve in spite of those damned voices that tell you, you can’t do this, or do that… Continue reading “I heard Demeaning Voices”